Learning To Be Selfish

Nothing is more infuriating and heartbreaking than when you constantly walk miles for someone, only for them to not even give you an inch back.

There are times where you need to put others first. Friends and family play a big part in this.

Sometimes you need to be selfish and put yourself first in certain situations. That’s okay! As long as it’s not all the time…

There are times where you need to put yourself first. Health, being a main reason. You need to look out for yourself.

I’ll be honest, I find it difficult to be selfish. I try my best to help those who come to me for help. I want to be there for them. I find it difficult to say no. This is my problem. I’ve recently learnt how people will learn this trait about you very quickly, and they are very fast to abuse this.

When you have given nothing. Ask for nothing.

I’m trying my hardest to ‘toughen’ up, and learn to put my foot down, but it’s still baby steps.

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8 thoughts on “Learning To Be Selfish

  1. This is one thing like you I cant get my head around, some people disappoint and really seem uncaring, yet they can’t or don’t want to see it.
    Like you say the only way forward is to toughen up and learn to say no when they want/need you, but while they get angry and frustrated with your answer of sorry no, or cant, what they dont see or feel is you slowly breaking inside, as this is not your nature, and you feel very hurt and let down. You can only take so much physically and mentally xx

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  2. I love this and can totally relate! I’m the type of person who always gives people the benefit of the doubt, which in return tends to leave me being walked all over. I was recently in a situation where someone was bringing so much negativity into my life. It came to the point where it was time to stop making excuses for them. I made the decision to cut them out of my life. Although that has been a hard decision to make, I learnt that it is perfectly okay to be selfish and make myself and my happiness a priority. ox

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  3. I love this post! I always have the issue that I automatically shut off any concern for myself when someone I care about needs me- even if they never ever repay the favor. I just got dumped by a guy who never helped me and made everything my fault, but because I cared, I always tried to fix things. I’m so glad there are people who also struggle to put themselves first sometimes. It can be so hard to say no when you just want to help. I totally feel this.

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    1. I’m glad you liked this! It’s ridiculous that we constantly look out for people who dont even give us a second though!
      I’m really sorry to hear about your break up, but it does sound like at least you’ll now have his weight off of your shoulders, and you can start to focus on yourself more now! x


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