If there’s one thing that can have a serious impact on your confidence and sense of self-worth, it’s a breakup. The truth is that there really is nothing more upsetting than breaking up with someone who you once loved, or maybe still love. It’s always going to be hard, especially if you weren’t the one that ended things.
When your partner has broken up with you, your self-confidence takes a serious hit, and it’s easy to see why. You start to wonder what’s wrong with you. Why your ex no longer wanted to be with you – didn’t they fancy you anymore? You begin to question everything. You wonder whether if you changed something about yourself whether they’d want you back.
Wondering what you can do to give your self-confidence a boost? Below are some useful tips that should help you to get back to feeling on top again.
Stop blaming yourself
The first thing that you should know is that you need to stop blaming yourself. Breakups are hard but sometimes they are necessary. Just because your ex no longer wanted to be together, that doesn’t mean that it was anything to do with how you look or who you are. Sometimes couples simply drift apart. They could still think that you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, it’s just that the spark the two of you shared has gone. That’s not your fault, it’s no one’s fault, so stop blaming yourself.
When you look good, you feel good, so take some time out to treat yourself to some new pieces of clothing. If you need a little pick-me-up, sometimes a spot of shopping is all that you need to get it. It’s amazing how much better you can feel with a new outfit on, isn’t it? It’s not going to be easy getting back to being the happy, self-confident girl you once were, but it is possible. Don’t criticise yourself, be positive about who you are and how you look.
Do something to boost your self-esteem
Is there something that you’ve always hated about yourself that knocks your confidence severely? Maybe you have a mole that you dislike or perhaps your teeth aren’t white enough for you? If there’s something that impacts your self-confidence, set out to change it. Being confident isn’t about changing yourself, but that being said, if something about your appearance bothers you and always have, why not change it? Say, for instance, you hate how creamy your teeth are and wish they were more white, see a cosmetic dentist and change that. You’ll feel better for it and your confidence will soar as a result.
Have you always wanted to do something totally daring? Like skydiving for instance or dying your hair bright pink but have never had the guts to do it? Well, now is the perfect time to be brave and make your dreams a reality. It might be scary but actually, doing the things that you’re desperate to do but are also scared of doing is incredibly empowering. When you empower yourself you boost your feeling of self-worth and you increase your confidence by doing so. Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith, do the things that you are scared of and you will feel amazing for it.
Make a change
Sometimes, when it comes to getting over a breakup and moving forward with your life, you need to make a change. This could be something small like changing up your morning routine and starting afresh with one that doesn’t remind you of your ex-partner, or it could be something a little bigger. Have you always dreamed of quitting your job and traveling around the world? Then maybe now could be the ideal time to do it. Or, do you hate your job and want to move on to greener pastures? If you do, then it could be the right time to make a change. Sometimes to start feeling like yourself again after a breakup, you need to make a change. It won’t be easy and might terrify you, but sometimes that’s what you need to do.
Spend time with your friends
If there’s anyone that can cheer you up and make you see your self-worth, it’s your friends. If you are feeling down, don’t be afraid to give them a call and ask them to come over. Sometimes, you need to have a laugh and talk things through with your friends – so don’t be afraid to oragnise a girl’s night in (or out if you’re feeling like it) so that you can talk things through with your girls.
Breakups are never easy to cope with, in fact, they can be downright impossible to process. It’s completely normal for a breakup to impact your self-esteem because when someone who used to love you tells you that actually they no longer want to be with you, it’s completely devastating. You begin to question what it is that you’ve done that’s made them no longer want you, you question what’s wrong with you and why you’re not good enough for them. Your self-worth takes a hit because you just can’t understand why they no longer want you.
While it’s not an easy thing to go through, the truth is that a breakup doesn’t have to break you. If you are smart about the best ways to deal with the grief you are feeling, and find ways to increase your confidence and self-worth, you can ensure that you end up back on top again. It won’t be easy, as getting over someone never is, but there’s no need to blame yourself and let your confidence take a hit because the chances are that it’s not your fault. Breakups happen to the best of us, because sometimes couples grow apart. No one is to blame, it’s just what happens sometimes, and although it’s sad it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
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